If you ever find yourself in a position where you feel unmotivated, uninspired or under appreciated, it might be time to change things up. Sometimes all that is needed is to ask for the thing that you need – whether that’s a promotion, a pay rise or just a simple request for a change in responsibilities – the only way it can happen is if you ask. Many people become frustrated when they feel like this, feeling though there needs should have already been met. Whining about your needs won’t change anything, and no one is a mind reader. So it’s important to actually talk to people and ask for what you want in order to get what you want.
When asking for something, you should be bold, clear and confident in your request. This should come naturally if you truly believe in what you are asking for. Avoid coming across aggressively and be polite when conversing but make sure your request is explicit.
Before going in with your request, it’s best to remember that the outcome may not turn out as you had hoped. If someone says no or rejects your request, don’t take it personally.
Leave the hints at home:
If you want something and are trying to hint at it, STOP! Not only can it make you appear passive aggressive, but it can also worsen your frustration at a situation. If you want something, the best thing to do is to stop beating around the bush and be direct.
Figure it out:
Before you ask the big question, jot down your thoughts in a note pad. This will help you organize your thoughts and make it easier to ask for what you want, with a clear end goal.
Take the other persons needs into account:
When you’re asking for a request, it can be easy to concentrate on yourself and your thoughts. Instead, you should remember to think about the other person, and their needs. Talk about your request from a different angle to your own.
If you have a request, don’t pile on the reasons they should fulfill it. If you have one main concise reason that should be enough.